I draw upon both a Person Centred Approach to therapy which supports your personal growth and self worth and upon Humanistic Counselling which supports you as a whole and encourages you to take responsibility for your thoughts and actions. During our time together, you will feel a high level of empathy and understanding and a non-judgemental acceptance of you and anything you wish to talk about. I will always place you and your needs at the centre of our time together.
I will focus on understanding and seeing your world just as you see it and I will share this with you to help you understand what's really going on for you above and beneath the surface. Having someone help you to feel genuine in your world, without the numbing effect of wearing a 'mask' or 'armour' will encourage you to let go of patterns that work against you and leave life feeling so much easier and more rewarding for you going forward.
My approach concentrates on effective listening, reflecting the material you bring, questioning negative behaviours and challenging unhelpful conscious or unconscious inner beliefs. I will promote confidence and comfort in you to rely upon your feelings when making decisions, which support your wellbeing and happiness in all areas of your life.
My focus will be on working with you both to understand the difficulties in the relationship and to help create solutions for change. You will both have equal opportunity to express yourselves about the issues and I will support you both to heal and improve.
My approach to couples psychotherapy and counselling is a brief, solution-focused therapy, which helps people feel better and move on in their lives as quickly as possible. At its heart is the meeting of your essential emotional needs so you both feel emotionally and mentally healthy.
An openness to change is the key. A goals orientated approach means we will identify areas of the relationship which aren't working, explore why and make positive changes. Some sessions will be with you both and some with each of you individually.
You will be able to take forward what you learn about yourselves and your relationship as permanent positive and practical changes for the future.
Typical difficulties couples bring are -
Frequent conflict and arguments
Emotionally distanced couples on the verge of separation
Specific problems such as sexual difficulties, infidelity, money, and parenting
Face to Face and Online Therapy available
I offer face to face counselling in Cardiff city centre and in Llandaff, Cardiff or online through the secure Zoom platform. I am accredited through the Association for Counselling & Online Therapy (ACTO) to work online.
What will happen during our sessions?
During the time we spend together you will feel genuinely heard and understood. I will listen and support you within a warm and welcoming non-judgemental space where you are safe to talk about anything you wish to.
We will regularly check in together to make sure we are working towards your goals and we are working in a way that suits you best. Meeting your needs will always be the focus of our work together.
I will help you to understand why you feel the way that you do and join the dots of repeating patterns which hold you back. I will safely challenge your beliefs and behaviours which work against you, so you can make the changes to become the person you want to be.
From hundreds of hours working with clients, I understand the effects that traumatic events and difficult choices can have upon you and how you may be left with punishing feelings that you can't break free from or shake off.
I will help you to build trust and confidence in your self and in your own decision making and support you to come to terms with difficult experiences so you can let them go.